I must confess...

2014 was definitely not my year for blogging. That is the understatement of the year I'm sure. I seem to recall doing a lot better In 2013 even though that was one of the worst years for me.

18 posts in 11 months. Pretty crappy if I do say so myself. But towards the end of the year my heart just wasn't in it. I was trying to blog all these awesome moments happening and then when I remember I either didn't have time to fully commit to a post, or another adventure came around. And then even worse I would have this great post about coming back and what I wanted to do, but then laziness would kick in and I would read a bunch of blogs and not write any of my own.

I wanted to blog about my fitness/weight loss mission, my relationships woes (and there has been a lot) and any other wonderfully chaotic things going on, but no dice. Then around my birthday in October I realized that when I started back up again blogging I wanted it to be because I actually enjoy it instead wanting people to care about stuff that might only be interesting to me.

And now on my 3rd try (third times a charm) I'm going to come back with a vengeance. Well not as intense, but of course I plan on revamping myself and my blogging ways that work with my busy life right now. I'm ready to blog for me and use it for what it was originally intended. A chronicle of my Bourgie life.

I've got a...

New layout in the works
New blog time (Aside from tonight, Sundays should be my day)
New outlook on life.

So to all my old blog friends I hope you haven't seen the post pop up and roll your eyes. This won't be the last one for months again I promise.

To the new blog friends that I hope to make now that I'm back, hey there! Welcome!!

I guess 28 is looking good on me :)

Xoxo

Things that I have realized at 27

My birthday is 2 months away so I got to thinking about all the things that have changed. I thought that by this time I would be married or at least planning on it, and more permanent in a career. Currently none of those things are happening. Now as I get closer to 30 I am not as scared as I once was and I have decided to embrace my life as is. I've been telling all my friends that 30 is the new 20. Any else believe that? I have learned quite a bit over the last couple years and I have written down a few that I am willing to confess about.


1. Hangovers. They are the absolute worst. But they are more deadly now that I'm not heading to college night every Thursday. Senior year of college I was an absolute champ. Partying 3 days a week and going to class the next day no problem. I can still party into the night, but the recovery time is longer painless and fixed with a glass of water and some Advil. I need time to re-evaluate my life, roll out of bed, and eat something immediately. And now that could take hours! That means if there is any weekday shenanigans, I have to think very carefully how to approach my next day. I do work in the classroom after all.

2. The junior section of stores is 90% of the time not suitable for me. It makes me sad seeing women forcing themselves into clothes they have no business wearing. Partially in my defense the store is called Forever 21, and I am 27; but if they make my size and I wear it appropriate whats the harm? Buuuuuut not everyone can wear anything just because it comes in your size FYI.

3. Living paycheck to paycheck has become an art form. I have a full time job yes, but that does not mean I always have money. That just is not realistic. Bills Bills Bills rule my world. I certainly know how to make 20 dollars stretch for a whole week.

4. Metabolism. Oh I miss the days of devouring empty calories and staying the same size. Now to counter balance I focus more on the empty calories of alcohol mixed in with eating healthier. Yes that sounds  like a good plan. I also got myself a personal trainer and he makes all the difference. No binge eating for me.

5. Keeping up with friends in high school gets tougher every year unless you live in a small town. It's to the point where I only speak if it's their birthday, or a new baby, or a wedding. Which by the way sucks because 9 times out of 10 I'm too far away to be invited to the wedding, baby shower, or birthday party. Womp womp.

6. My love for fashion has increased ten fold. My desire to be more daring and dress for appropriate occasions have gotten better. Or maybe its my love for shoes. Yes. I just love shoes. Outfits are only necessary in order to wear certain shoes. If I could, I'd go naked and have some hot shoes on. Guess I need to move to a nudist colony.

7. I am no longer dating for fun. Lol I mean it still needs to be fun, but I'm starting to get the itch for settling down...maybe it's because of all the damn weddings and baby showers I've been seeing. I think I'm ready for someone to make an honest woman out of me.

8. My increase in jealousy has come to the forefront. This might be due to social media and the parade of "new job" and "I'm engaged" and "bought a new house". Facebook/Instagram/Twitter breeds the jealousy but I can't look away. I know it's not my time and it's okay for me to feel this way. This just means that when it happens for me I'm going to have a freakin parade. Okay maybe not that much pomp and circumstance. But there will be a party.

XOXO

Confessions of a Blogaholic Link Up

Guess what day it is...

ONE: I really want my nose pierced. I think I like the way I look with it. What do you think? I'm 99.9 percent sure that my parents would freak out. Plus I tough my nose wayyy too much (the lovely perks of allergies) and it would hurt and possibly get ripped out.

                           

TWO: I take photos of myself in outfits because i don't trust the mirror. Its a problem. I have a perfectly good full length mirror in my room. But I choose to use the huge one in my bathroom. I think the lighting is better in there too.

THREE: Beyonce' addicted right now. That new album. Fire. I am not even a hard core Beyonce fan. I have a couple of friends who do anything to go to her concerts. But this visual album makes me want to stand in line and head to her next concert. Some of my favorites include "Haunted", "Blow", "Drunk In Love". Partition is the BEST!!! Such a great vibing album.

FOUR: These braids have reached the end. I wanted to have them last until the New Year, but I hate when my hair is not up to par; I feel some type of way. Time for something different. It may be time to bring the bangs back. I've missed them.

FIVE: I have dropped the ball with my TV shows this season. I did not watch a single episode of Glee, The Mindy Project, and New Girl and I'm so sad for it. But that's what DVR is for. I guess that's what the winter break is for.

Hope everyone has a great week!

XOXO

Sunday Confessions #3

Music Addition

I love Nicki Minaj. Her performance tonight on the BET Awards made me love her all over again. A lot of people don't like her but I do and I don't care.

I have a girl crush on Melanie Fiona. If you have not heard her new album the MF Life PLEASE listen to it. Plus shes Guyanese and I love that she is a gorgeous representation of us.

I do not support D'Angelo trying to do a comeback after 12 years being gone. Uh No sir. Let me keep my image of you in "How Does it Feel" and let that be that.

I want to see Maroon 5 in concert so bad. But they are touring out of the country til who knows!!! Ugh.

I listen to the radio even though I have an IPod AND an IPhone. I like to know whats popular and what Im going to hear in the bars and in the clubs. Even though I hear the same 10 songs OVER and OVER I still sing along. *shrugs*

What is some new music I need to check out?

Sunday Confessions #2

1. I love nail polish...I just hate putting it on! I bought 2 new nail polishes this past week...both a minty color. I finally got a chance to put one of them on before I headed to a BBQ on Saturday and it is such a pain to do.But I love the end result. I think I will keep this color until the 4th of July :) What are some color ideas for July? I didn't want to do traditional Red.

2. I worry a lot that I may never find a career I'm happy with. The plan has always been to be an event planner. I love the background planning of events and the atmosphere of behind the scenes preparation. Weddings, parties, promotional events, I want to do it all. But it takes experience and trust and I am having a tough time finding someone to take me under their wing. Ugh! But I also have another interest of working in Higher Education with Student Affairs/Residence Life. I loved being an Resident Advisor when I was in school and I would love to do it professionally. But most jobs require a masters and that means....GOING BACK TO SCHOOL bum. bum. bum. ::cue evil music:: That is an option that's really not on the top of my list. But it may come back in the picture soon :/
3. Teen Wolf is an Awesome show....Empire Girls however is not. This show ended up being really good and I actually want to see what happens in the 2nd season and I haven't even finished the first! Empire Girls after watching one episode will NOT be in my reality TV rotation. All I hear is whining and complaining about past man problems and it seems only a publicity stunt for Adrienne's album that's coming out soon. Anyone seen either of these shows? 

4. I miss the nightlife. No I'm not referring to being a woman of the night. I haven't been out downtown bar hopping and dancing in a week and I'm already missing it. I love just being carefree and dancing the night away with drinks and talking and socializing. Don't get me wrong I have a blast chillin in the apartment playing Dance Central with my girls (which is actually what I did last night!) but I like getting all dressed up and strutting my stuff lol Okay not actually strutting but maybe a slight pep in my step because I am out and about with my friends. *sigh* Anyone else love the nightlife?

Sunday Confessions #1

Lets Go Heat! So excited for the Finals!

Im excited to be double posting today because I actually have something else to write about. While spending my evening reading blogs and watching movies I came across another Link-up that I wouldnt mind doing. Sunday Confessions: Since I am one who doesn't go to church I thought it was an interesting choice of words for this one. I am jumping on this so there goes all my Sunday posts. Maybe ill mix it up every other week. This Sunday however is themed to match my current vacay in New Jersey with Gregory and his family. Thank you Alyx from Every Day is a New Adventure!

1. I really wanted to attend Greg's friends' wedding today. Short story: Greg invited me to a wedding months in advance and I was excited to go because I love weddings and seeing people in love. (plus I also like to plan my own in my head) They were running behind on a lot of things including the invitations to the wedding itself. Once he received it he saw that there was no +1 on the invitation. When inquiring about wanting to bring me as his guest he was told that they "overbooked" and they assumed because we weren't dating when the seating arrangements were made that Greg wasn't going to bring anybody. Is it just me or is that the oddest thing ever? I feel like you should take certain things into account when you invite people to weddings (but that's just the event planner in me)

2. I may be a moderate shopaholic. So my friends know my obsession with shoes (ALL shoes) and how much I love shopping for clothes. But most people don't know that I love to shop in general. Grocery, Shoe, etc, I love it. I get a rush just picking up a few items at Target. I constantly have a Things to Buy list because I'm always needing/wanting something. I joke with my mother about being a shopaholic, but what if I really am?

3. The sound of the flip flop when it slaps against the bottom of someones foot makes me cringe. That noise just absolutely irritates me. I cant explain it but I can honestly tell you that when I walk in my flip flop no ridiculous noise is made. And I have tried to make it several times. It comes from letting the flip flop just hang on your foot. I cant hear that sound without getting agitated.

4. I'm happy for Miley Cyrus getting engaged. For 2 reasons; 1, Liam Hemsworth is gorgeous and someone needed to snatch him up. 2, you cant help who you love and if he proposed and her first feeling was yes then why not? My parents got married at 18 and 21 and this year they will be married for 27 years. I believe in love. Plus she doesn't have to get married right away.

5. I dint get tired of food very easily.oI realized this after this past week. I had pork 4 days in a row! When I cook its only for me now so I have enough to have it for lunch and dinner for the next 2 days, but then I went and ate Chinese food with Pork fried rice and Pork Potstickers...lol But it was all yummy and most of the time I am okay with eating the same things. But being such a foodie I am willing to eat something different everyday just to experience new flavors and places!